Elegance

“For me, elegance is not to pass unnoticed but to get to the very soul of what one is.”

– Christian Lacroix

Elegance is not simplicity for the sake of effacing one’s self. Elegance is simplicity for the sake of showing only one’s self.

Before one can show only oneself, one must first know one’s essence and abide by it.

Knowing one’s self, one’s essence, is a never-ending process. It requires a certain effort to question oneself. Who am I, REALLY?  Yet the more and more you question your self, the more you know what is essential to you – and what is not.

There can only be essential things if there are also unessential ones.

The important thing for you is to know which is which.

Face it. Not all of the things in life are essential to you. But what is essential to you is your responsibility to find out. It is imperative for you to know your self because in knowing yourself deeper and deeper, you discover the joys that come from what is truly essential.

Abiding only in essence – this is the beauty of elegance.

It is going to the core, to the fundamental, to the essential. It is the dropping of the superfluous, the secondary, the unessential.

Are you being elegant?

Or is there a lot of things in your life that don’t really go to your very soul?
Are there people you relate to that you aren’t really in resonance with?
Do you still go to places and events where you don’t really feel like you belong?

If so, why is it that you are keeping those things that are not aligned with your essence?

“It’s not the daily increase but daily decrease. Hack away at the unessential.”

– Bruce Lee

Why be elegant anyway?

When you hack away at the unessential, your life gets lighter and lighter. Spaciousness becomes a reality. You create more space for the joy in which you dwell in the things that are essential. You create space in which you can breathe and express who you are.

This elegance does not just apply to your life in general, but to specific activities as well.

A martial artist and a brawler can be told apart by their motions. The untrained brawler has a raw strength borne of recklessness and ignorance. He wastes a lot of energy in his motion. The trained martial artist moves with a refined power borne of self-knowledge and awareness. All of his motions have a purpose.

To live more elegantly, be more aware of the things you do and how you do them.
What is essential and unessential in these activities?

Whether it be cooking, dancing, singing, driving your car, walking, talking, taking a bath, doing your school or office work, gardening, taking up a sport, etc., all can be seen for what is essential and unessential.

You have a limited time and energy, and so elegance preserves those scarce resources.

Self-knowledge and awareness of the essential leads to a purposefulness in your movements. No motion is wasted. Every movement becomes purposeful. Every thing becomes purposeful.

This is elegance.

Are you living an elegant life?

Do it

‘Knowing is not enough, we must apply. Willing is not enough, we must do.’

– Bruce Lee

1. To do something you want to do, do it.

That sounds redundant and stupid. But really, this is real talk.

Want to produce a song? Do it.
Want to run a 10k? Do it.
Want to get that body that you want? Do it.
Want to ask that girl you like out? Do it.
Want to go make a website for your passion? Do it.

Those are some things that I’ve thought about doing and actually have done. They might not be impressive comparing them to what other people have already been achieving, but what matters is that I actually did what I wanted to do.

2. You can never really know how life could be if you don’t actually go do it.  

Whatever “it” is. You have your own life and things you want to happen in that life. Thinking about them or knowing about them isn’t going to change your life. It will only make you regret when you end up not doing it at all.

3. Doing is how you really learn, how you really know.

You can read all the books about riding a bicycle, but you don’t really learn how to ride a bicycle. You have to ride the bicycle. To be able to understand something thoroughly, you must engage it in the most concrete way possible.

What is the use of accumulating information inside our heads? Is an accumulation of information what you would really call learning? You are conscious being with a body. This body is used to interact with the things around you. If life was used just to think and wonder, what’s the use of a body?

It’s that simple, really. Want to learn something? To truly learn something? Get involved with it.

Do. Apply. Experience.

Then you will learn it in a way that is not just an accumulation of knowledge, but a knowing in the most alive sense.

You don’t just know about it in your mind. But you know it in your mind, heart, and body.

You know it with your whole being.

4. Doing things is the expression of who you are.

All of us have the innate desire to express what our intentions are, to create and express our individuality.

You can intend to do things. You can have the best of intentions. But those intentions are useless if we don’t even at least try to express them through what we do.

Intending to do is not doing. Not doing is not expressing who you are.

Try. Do. Express.

5. You will be known for what you have done.

People don’t know what you were thinking about unless you did something about it.

People don’t know how you feel unless you showed it in your deeds.

People don’t know who you are unless you expressed it through your actions.

If you want to be remembered a certain way, then make sure you go do the things that will make you be remembered in that way.

 6. Doing is much more fun.

Which is more fun – reading about skydiving or skydiving yourself?

Well, not all of us would be too extreme, but doing is more fun than just thinking about it or imagining it. Don’t be a spectator or a speculator if you can be a experiencer. You won’t regret it. It’s much more fun.

Go out there and do. Do and have fun.

Do it.