The nature of our lives is flow.

The food passes into our bodies. The food passes out.

We drink water. We pass the water out.

We breathe in air. We breathe out air.

We are impressed by thoughts and emotions. We express thoughts and emotions.

We receive. We give.

Death results when we stop this flow.

Have you ever heard about the tale of the two seas? The Sea of Gallillee and the Dead Sea?

The Sea of Galilee is full of life. Flora and fauna abounds in its shores. Fish and all kinds of sea creatures fill its waters. Birds fly above and find a bounty of food. Animals and men alike bathe in its waters. This sea is alive.

The Dead Sea has its name aptly. No fish or plants can live in its saltiness. The barren banks are rarely visited by birds. Nothing can sink into its depths because of its extreme saltiness. This sea is dead.

Yet the Sea of Galilee and the Dead Sea both take their waters from the River Jordan. Why then is the Sea of Galilee full of life the Dead Sea devoid of it?

Simply because the Sea of Galilee flows and the Dead Sea does not.

For every drop that the Sea of Galilee receives, it also gives a drop. It does not keep anything to itself. It shares everything that it gets. In doing so, it promotes the freshness and motion that is capable of supporting life.

It knows that life is flow. If you stop the flow, you stop the life.

For every drop that the Dead Sea receives, it keeps. It hoards the waters and does not share anything. It does so until the water of life evaporates and all its left with is saltiness and stagnancy incapable of supporting life.

It does not know about life being flow. Because of this, it is dead.

Are you flowing?

Are we following the nature of our lives in sharing what we have? In giving what we receive? Do we feel alive inside?

Or are we hoarding the things in our lives? We keep receiving and don’t give? Do we feel dead inside?


Follow the flow of life and you feel alive.



Anger is natural. It is part of being human. It is a flow. But when you stop that flow and dam it up, you basically damn yourself into suffering. Then, anger becomes hate – a grudge. What was once a flow is now a stagnancy full of dirty and poisonous things. And your soul will die.

When we don’t forgive, we suffer. Not forgiving is like swallowing a hot coal in the hopes of burning someone else.

When we don’t forgive, who is the one who suffers?

Who feels the burden in one’s heart?
Who is the one who is miserable?
Who loses sleep and becomes tense?
Who is put into all this mental anguish?

Isn’t it the one who does not forgive?

When we forgive, we do not set free the person we forgive, but ourselves.

So what can we do to restore the flow? Forgive.

After forgiving others, what may be more difficult is forgiving ourselves.

Once you realized how you’ve hurt others and made mistakes in the past, this may motivate you to make things up with them, but out of feelings of guilt and remorse.

Just like anger, the momentary feeling of guilt is part of the flow that helps you realize that you have done something that have hurt others, but you have to let it flow. Don’t dam it up. Guilt when retained becomes an unhealthy self-condemnation.

You can only give of yourself to people you love and care for if you live in the present and keep that state of flow, not stuck with feelings of self-condemnation or hate.

Accept that you made and can make mistakes, just like everyone else. Accept your imperfection and love yourself as you are.

So throw the self-condemnation out. Learn from the guilt, forgive yourself, and then move on.

Be present.

Your natural state is to flow.

Feel it. Hate and self-condemnation are blockages to the flow of things. It is not your nature. Your nature is to live in the present moment and embrace things as they come, not get stuck in the past.

Sure, we learn from the past and act accordingly, but it’s different if you have a burden on your heart because of hate or self-condemnation.

Don’t dam things up and damn yourself. Learn to let go. Learn to flow. Become the river, the current.


Forgive others. Forgive yourself. Forgive.