Roadtrip

Have you ever been on a roadtrip? Roadtrips are fun.

Here are the things which I think make a good roadtrip:

You are together with the people whom you love and love you.

If you are with the people who make your heart smile, then that love makes any journey worthwhile. It doesn’t even matter much where you go or even if you arrive, because the love you seek is already here with you in the people you love.

Love doesn’t make the world go ’round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.

– Franklin P. Jones

Seeing all these magnificent sights in nature alone is incomplete. Christopher John McCandless whose life was shown in the movie Into the Wild and a novel with the same name, has realized something important right before he died in his solitary sojourn into the woods:

Happiness is only real when shared.

– Christopher John McCandless

Christopher went out into the woods alone, and he realized what makes a great roadtrip is sharing with the people you love and who love you. Next time you want to go out running into the woods alone, I suggest you learn about Christopher’s story.

There is no fixed destination…

There are desired destinations, but there is a certain openness to what may happen.

When you break up any expectations that the roadtrip should happen this way or that way, there is a certain openness that frees the Universe to flow its energies to you more freely.

When you have no expectations of what should happen, there is no possibility for disappointment. When you leave that space for uncertainty and embrace it, you become awake to life’s mystery.

Like a sailor who directs the masts and sails, but does not control the winds and the waves. Such is dynamic interplay of will and circumstance.

…and no rush to get to anywhere.

A roadtrip may have possible desired destinations, but there is no rush to get to them. The focus is in the present moment and enjoying where one is.

If we hurry and go towards a destination, we are taking away the best part, which is the roadtrip we are having now.

In a roadtrip, we are always in the midst of travelling. Destinations are merely part of the roadtrip.

Happiness is then found along the way, not at the end of the road. We don’t even know if we could even reach the end of the road.

This quote just about sums the roadtrip attitude:

“A good traveler has no fixed plans, and is not intent on arriving.”

– Lao Tzu

These insights of course do not just apply to any particular roadtrip, but the great roadtrip of life itself.

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I hope you are enjoying your roadtrip. Have a great one.

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Here and Now

All you ever have is here and now.

Think about it. No matter how many dreams of the future or remembrances of the past you have, you are in the present.

So where can we find happiness? Is it when we’ve achieved the goals that we have set for ourselves? Or is it in reminiscing about times past?

It is found in the present moment.

Are you enjoying the sensations that you experience throughout your days?
Are you awake to the breeze that gently touches your skin as you drink that warm and homey cup of coffee?
Are you awake to the touch of your loved ones and their comforting presence?
Are you awake to the joys and the pleasures that the present moment makes available to you?

When you focus on the future or the past, you take away the best part, which is the NOW. The future will also be NOW. The past was NOW. But remember to be in the here and now that is now!

Don’t postpone your happiness.

“I’ll be happy when I get high grades. I’ll be happy when she becomes my girlfriend. I’ll be happy when I get out of this house and have my own. I’ll be happy when I get this promotion at work. I’ll be happy when…”

Do these sound familiar?

Truth is, we don’t know when we’re going to die. So why postpone your happiness to a future moment? And at the same time, what if you never get those things? And if you do get those things, you’ll always try to find another “I’ll be happy when…” because you think that happiness lies in the future.

The future is the horizon that gives us hope. It is a striving towards the destination. Yet remember that the destinations are only part of the journey.

Be happy in your journey.

Happiness is found along the way, not at the end of the road.

True enough. You don’t even know if you’re going to reach the end of the road.

What determines your contentment and happiness is your ability to stay in the present moment.

Worrying about the future takes you away from the present. Relax and trust. If you can do something about it, then do something to take your worry away. If you can’t do something about it, why worry about it?

Guilt about the past takes you away from the present. Learn to forgive yourself. You cannot change the past, can you? But you can do something to make the present better from what you’ve learned in the past.

Be here and now. Immerse yourself in the present moment. Be aware of how you feel, think, and are. Enjoy the sights, sounds, tastes, smells, touches, thoughts, emotions, etc. You are alive right here and now.

While waiting for something, do something else.

Don’t waste your time doing nothing while waiting for something that has not yet come.

Waiting for your boyfriend at school? Why not go to the art museum and check out the paintings there?
Waiting for you to have that college degree to be able to work? Why not work on finding your passion while you have the freetime to do so?
Waiting for your chance to go travel the world? Why not go around the local places you can already reach but have not yet gone to?

The point is to explore and to enjoy all that is in the present moment. Let the future take care of itself when it becomes the present. Do something right now.

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All you ever have is here and now.