Means and Ends

I want to talk about means and ends. I define means as those activities that we do to achieve certain goals or ends. I define ends as those things that we seek to achieve through means.

What is the highest end to which all ends go?

Happiness.

It is what we are all seeking for. It is what we are all doing these things in our life for. It is what we are all living for. To achieve this state of well being. To live well and feel right in all aspects of our being. It is an inner state of harmony with life. It is a sense of being awake, aware, and vibrant.

The highest end is simply being happy.

Don’t you think so?  If it’s not happiness, then what are we all doing these activities in life for anyway?

The question then now is, how do we get happiness?

First, let us look at how unhappiness happens.

Unhappiness happens when we postulate that we must achieve a certain end for us to be happy.

If we are making our happiness conditional on achieving an end, what if we can never achieve that end? Then one can never be happy.

So now, let us look at how happiness happens:

When means become ends, and ends become means, one flows in happiness.

Think about it. We all want to use means in order for us to be happy.

But when we see that the happiness we seek is not in achieving a certain end but in the doing of the activities for the sake of themselves, then we have found happiness right here and now.

This does not disregard the fact that the doing of these activities can achieve certain ends that also evoke a sense of well-being, but seeing both as already means and ends, here and now.

The way to happiness is in seeing reality in a way that things and people are not just means but ends in themselves.

If we focus our time in doing activities that are means to get to an end that we think can make us happy, then we cannot use that time to do activities that we find pleasurable and enjoyable in and of themselves.

A simple walk with your lover.
A warm shower.
Playing with your pet.
Listening to music that you like.

People need to slow down in their lives and see that many of these activities that they can enjoy are already available to them here and now. Then they got to go do it and enjoy. That simple. What is life for, anyway? Don’t we all just want to be happy?

As for people, if we treat them as mere means to get to ends, we cannot appreciate the wonderful dynamism and creativity that each unique individual expresses.

If you look at people as merely means to getting more money, fame, power, or privileges, then you’ve missed the point of relationship.

Because relationship in its ultimate sense is an end unto itself.

When you really love, you don’t use a person as a means to an end. You actually see the person as an end unto himself or herself.

You relate because you relate. You love because you love. Happiness happens, and it happens when you don’t even use means to get to the end of happiness. You simply treat things and people as ends in themselves.

If you need to work for money to get certain ends you feel you will enjoy, then maybe you can actually find work that you enjoy doing for the sake of itself. Ask yourself:

If money were no object, what would you be doing?

What is it that makes you come alive when you do it?

Don’t make money the priority. Of course you need money, but you also need to come alive. Because what is the use of having the money to live, but feeling dead because you don’t like what you’re doing? Which do you think is a deeper need?

I suggest you factor that into your decision making too. Money isn’t the only thing you need. A deeper need is to live in a way that makes you come and feel fully alive. If not, what is life for? What’s the use of having all that money and security in life if you don’t even like how you’re living?

So go and do what makes you come alive. Life is short.

You don’t want to spend it saving up money and then end up realizing that you don’t have much time left to do what you actually want to do and what makes you come alive.

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What are your means and ends?

a toast to the small

small, small
i find my
world
so small
yet in that
smallness
i find
greatness

i know few people
i do few things
i own few belongings
i go few places
yet in that
few
i find that
nothing is lacking

each person’s life
is really small
in that i find
no problem at all

for in realizing
your smallness
you truly realize
your greatness

you are great
when you fully love
the few people
you have in your life

you are great
when you fully do
the few things
you do in your life

you are great
when you see the small
for what they
truly are

size or number
do not determine
the importance
of something

the smallest of things
has its purpose
has its meaning
has its greatness

remember that the small
is what makes the large

the beach is the beach
grain by grain
the ocean is the ocean
drop by drop
the universe is the universe
star by star

the universe is contained
within a grain of sand
in your smallness
is your greatness
you are the universe

On Words and Love

my heart smiles
so broadly
my lips
cannot follow

Love is
mute
it cannot speak

in its fullness
Love is
ineffable
inexpressible
beyond language

a fire
burning deep
burning bright

hidden from
fleshly sight

every mystic’s
true delight

i wish to speak
of Love

yet words
are not
enough

a small
pail
cannot contain
the ocean

so do
words
cannot express
Love

Roadtrip

Have you ever been on a roadtrip? Roadtrips are fun.

Here are the things which I think make a good roadtrip:

You are together with the people whom you love and love you.

If you are with the people who make your heart smile, then that love makes any journey worthwhile. It doesn’t even matter much where you go or even if you arrive, because the love you seek is already here with you in the people you love.

Love doesn’t make the world go ’round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.

– Franklin P. Jones

Seeing all these magnificent sights in nature alone is incomplete. Christopher John McCandless whose life was shown in the movie Into the Wild and a novel with the same name, has realized something important right before he died in his solitary sojourn into the woods:

Happiness is only real when shared.

– Christopher John McCandless

Christopher went out into the woods alone, and he realized what makes a great roadtrip is sharing with the people you love and who love you. Next time you want to go out running into the woods alone, I suggest you learn about Christopher’s story.

There is no fixed destination…

There are desired destinations, but there is a certain openness to what may happen.

When you break up any expectations that the roadtrip should happen this way or that way, there is a certain openness that frees the Universe to flow its energies to you more freely.

When you have no expectations of what should happen, there is no possibility for disappointment. When you leave that space for uncertainty and embrace it, you become awake to life’s mystery.

Like a sailor who directs the masts and sails, but does not control the winds and the waves. Such is dynamic interplay of will and circumstance.

…and no rush to get to anywhere.

A roadtrip may have possible desired destinations, but there is no rush to get to them. The focus is in the present moment and enjoying where one is.

If we hurry and go towards a destination, we are taking away the best part, which is the roadtrip we are having now.

In a roadtrip, we are always in the midst of travelling. Destinations are merely part of the roadtrip.

Happiness is then found along the way, not at the end of the road. We don’t even know if we could even reach the end of the road.

This quote just about sums the roadtrip attitude:

“A good traveler has no fixed plans, and is not intent on arriving.”

– Lao Tzu

These insights of course do not just apply to any particular roadtrip, but the great roadtrip of life itself.

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I hope you are enjoying your roadtrip. Have a great one.