Present

Ever wondered what the best and most valuable present you can give to a person is? This is what I think:

The best present you can ever give to a person is being present.

Sounds so simple, right?

Yet I think this is one of the things that we take for granted easily. We get so used to the motions of being with people that we don’t really get to relish and be fully present in that moment with them.

Are you really present with the people in your life when you spend time with them?

If you worry about bills to pay, how can you pay attention to the loved one you are with?
If you regret about hurting this person in the past, how can you enjoy the relationship you have now?
If you keep thinking about your test or work you have to do tomorrow, how can you listen to your friend who is baring his or her soul to you?

If your mind is somewhere else, can you really say you are being together with the person you are with?

What is the use of being with another person if you have all these other things in your mind?

So stay in the present moment where you truly belong.

I’m not saying to forget all about our responsibilities and the past, but I’m saying to relish the present moment as it is.

There is a time for those things you need to do, and you should give them that time when you need to. But when you are to spend time with someone you care about, make sure you are fully present with them.

If you can’t put off the things you are worrying about, take care of them first so you can fully be present and totally give yourself to the people you care about.

Awaken your senses to the here and now. Immerse yourself into the present moment.

Give being present as your best present.

At the end of the day, the people who truly care about you want you. They don’t primarily want your money and material gifts. They want your attention, your presence, your being.

So give that to them. It’s something you will always be able to give, if only you awaken yourself to the present moment.

Relish their hugs.
Appreciate their eye contact.
Enjoy being with them.
Listen to their joys and sorrows.
Speak inspiration to their soul.
Eat and drink with them.

Do all of these things with you fully being present with them. You’ll never regret it.

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Are you giving your best present?

Here and Now

All you ever have is here and now.

Think about it. No matter how many dreams of the future or remembrances of the past you have, you are in the present.

So where can we find happiness? Is it when we’ve achieved the goals that we have set for ourselves? Or is it in reminiscing about times past?

It is found in the present moment.

Are you enjoying the sensations that you experience throughout your days?
Are you awake to the breeze that gently touches your skin as you drink that warm and homey cup of coffee?
Are you awake to the touch of your loved ones and their comforting presence?
Are you awake to the joys and the pleasures that the present moment makes available to you?

When you focus on the future or the past, you take away the best part, which is the NOW. The future will also be NOW. The past was NOW. But remember to be in the here and now that is now!

Don’t postpone your happiness.

“I’ll be happy when I get high grades. I’ll be happy when she becomes my girlfriend. I’ll be happy when I get out of this house and have my own. I’ll be happy when I get this promotion at work. I’ll be happy when…”

Do these sound familiar?

Truth is, we don’t know when we’re going to die. So why postpone your happiness to a future moment? And at the same time, what if you never get those things? And if you do get those things, you’ll always try to find another “I’ll be happy when…” because you think that happiness lies in the future.

The future is the horizon that gives us hope. It is a striving towards the destination. Yet remember that the destinations are only part of the journey.

Be happy in your journey.

Happiness is found along the way, not at the end of the road.

True enough. You don’t even know if you’re going to reach the end of the road.

What determines your contentment and happiness is your ability to stay in the present moment.

Worrying about the future takes you away from the present. Relax and trust. If you can do something about it, then do something to take your worry away. If you can’t do something about it, why worry about it?

Guilt about the past takes you away from the present. Learn to forgive yourself. You cannot change the past, can you? But you can do something to make the present better from what you’ve learned in the past.

Be here and now. Immerse yourself in the present moment. Be aware of how you feel, think, and are. Enjoy the sights, sounds, tastes, smells, touches, thoughts, emotions, etc. You are alive right here and now.

While waiting for something, do something else.

Don’t waste your time doing nothing while waiting for something that has not yet come.

Waiting for your boyfriend at school? Why not go to the art museum and check out the paintings there?
Waiting for you to have that college degree to be able to work? Why not work on finding your passion while you have the freetime to do so?
Waiting for your chance to go travel the world? Why not go around the local places you can already reach but have not yet gone to?

The point is to explore and to enjoy all that is in the present moment. Let the future take care of itself when it becomes the present. Do something right now.

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All you ever have is here and now.