Think only about yourself.
Make yourself the number one person in your life.
Care only for what you want.
You read that right. You might be wondering now, “what the hell is this guy saying? Isn’t he about sharing happiness with other people and stuff?”
Being selfish is the most unselfish thing you can do.
Now, how can that be? Here are the reasons:
1. It is only when you put yourself first that you can truly share happiness.
You have desires. You have wants. You have needs.
Longings inside you that make you genuinely happy when you have them fulfilled. Don’t be ashamed of them! You deserve to be happy as much as the rest of people.
When you become truly happy, that is the only time you can share that true happiness with others. That happiness is the result of you knowing yourself and loving yourself. You cannot share with others the happiness you do not have.
2. Being selfish is human nature.
Humans may be social creatures, living in communities, but those communities are made of individuals – selves. Well, guess what? You are a self. Being selfless is denying the reality of who you are. And you won’t understand what other human selves need because you haven’t accepted your own self as reality.
If you’re selfish, you know what it means to have your own personal needs, goals, wants, dreams, hopes, aspirations. If you’re selfish, you know that other selves have the same desires as you do.
If you don’t acknowledge and accept yourself for who you are – the things you like, things you don’t like, your dreams, hopes, wishes, preferences – then you won’t understand about other people in the things they hold important to their happiness.
You cannot help others with their happiness if you don’t even know how it feels to do things for your own happiness.
3. Being selfish makes you happy and this naturally flows to others.
If you’re happy, then you don’t even have to think about how to share your happiness. Your understanding about happiness becomes intuitive that you feel how to do it and have the natural motivation to make others happy.
In fact, sometimes being happy is just enough sometimes that when other people get close to a happy person, they are infected by that person’s happiness.
4. Coming alive with your selfish passions, you inspire others to come alive.
When you put yourself first, you can be passionate. When you’re passionate about something, then you would do great in it. When you do great in it, people will be inspired by you. People will see that spark of life that makes them want to do what makes them happy too.
If you feel like you have to do something and do something out of duty, it’s ugly.
If you feel like you WANT to do something and do it out of your own selfish joy, it’s the most beautiful thing in the world.
There’s a great quote on this:
“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”
– Howard Thurman
Those who we consider some of the greatest in the history of humanity I believe, are those who have come alive because they put themselves first. It is in being selfish that they have become the most unselfish people. They have contributed to the life of the world by first coming alive.
5. Because you teach other people to be responsible for their own happiness.
If you become selfish and take charge of your happiness, then you empower people with that realisation. When they see that you do things for yourself and make the most of your situation instead of waiting for others to make conditions right, they see that it is possible for them to do the same.
The realisation is that they are the ones responsible for how they feel about life, not others. They are responsible for their happiness or their sadness. This makes them take action and have a pr0-active perspective that their life is in their hands. Other people cannot make them feel happy, sad, angry, frustrated, etc. unless they want them to.
For me, this blog is selfishly unselfish. Why? Because it makes me happy when I get to somehow inspire people and share my life. I’m not doing it because other people told me to do so. I’m doing it because of putting myself first. I do this because I’m able to express myself, I do this because it gives me an opportunity to be known for who I am. I’m doing this because I want to be good at something.
So be selfish. It’s good for you. It’s good for all of us. It’s good for life.